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It is sad that there is so much drama...and it continues

I love Ebay and the blogs have helped me so much, at times when I needed someone to talk to.  Lately though, it is like there are "cliques" and some people just do not fit in.   It is like reading about a "soap opera" and all the dramatic changes you see on them.  I don't get good feelings about the poster, when I read some of the comments and have seen that kind of thing over and over.

Sometimes I wonder why people like to do that. 

I have seen a profile of myself in some of the conversations in the past.   It is obvious who is being talked about because of the "clues" that are given out.  I have seen assumptions, accusations, and people called various names.  To me, it is the same thing as posting someone's ID without the right to do that.  It is so sad that adults play those games. 

I have read old posts and yes, I have formed my own opinions.  People make silly mistakes and next thing you know, they are being ridiculed, made fun of and the become the object of "fun teasing".  Actually, those who are doing the damage are hurting themselves as they make their remarks.  They are showing their true self.

I don't care to be a part of that kind of thing.  My mother always taught me to not make fun of people, no matter what.  It is rude and feelings get hurt.  If you don't like something, walk away from it...ignore it...let it go...and eventually the person will get the hint and quit doing whatever it is that bothers you...or at least that is what you need to hope for.

People make mistakes.  They do now and have in the past many times...and it will happen again tomorrow.  I know I make my fair share on a daily basis.  I am not perfect and will never claim to be.  The one thing I don't do is make fun of anyone.  And, I don't try to hurt anyone.  It doesn't feel very good and I know that from first hand experience.

I form my own opinions.  Still, those that seem to want to keep poking fun become the ones that I feel are the problem.  Ebay isn't what it once was.

 

 

 

thenaughtysecret2008
There's been drama already this morning?
Jul-18-08 07:06:13 PDT Report this comment
wascheck123
good morning, yes not the same it used to be, I really try to stay away from drama, and we were not put here to hurt people, ((HUGS))

good morning, and have a nice day
Jul-18-08 07:06:33 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
That is my point exactly wascheck! Why does it happen?
I just hope and pray that those who like to do that will find something else somewhere else to keep themselves busy.
thennaughty, not so much today as prior to today.
I get on here in the morning to do some spam and I see things that just aren't right.
I feel bad for the people that are involved. Nothing is hidden...it is all there in plain view...mocking, making fun of, etc...it is sad.
Jul-18-08 07:09:28 PDT Report this comment
nailhd
I AIN'T SEEN NO DRAMA, ARE YOU TRYIN TA START DRAMA?
Jul-18-08 07:10:10 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
Good morning Iris! :)


I don't play games

I only defend myself and others who can't defend themselves

people who don't bother to read what I have to say will never understand that

I don't just go around picking fights, in fact, they start em with me

They seem to think they can bully people and get away with it, but they are sadly mistaken

when the choose to start with me

I assume nothing, I make no accusations only state the facts, and only show the bullies how much THEIR name calling can hurt people (fight fire with fire)

But, no matter what I do, some see it as just starting drama

I really don't care what they see, cuz they are not bothering to open their eyes

and seeing the whole truth, they only see what they want or a very small part of the whole thing

Thats all I got to say about that
Jul-18-08 07:10:32 PDT Report this comment
alien*from*the*planet*zorb
Mornin' Iris!! Lots of people have basically said to me that the blogs are only as good as we make them, and I think they are right. If we don't discuss the drama or participate in it, the drama dies out on its own, because it feeds on itself.
:)
Jul-18-08 07:11:05 PDT Report this comment
nailhd
LIFE IS LIKE A BOX OF CHOCOLATES
Jul-18-08 07:11:45 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
Thats what my momma used to say
Jul-18-08 07:12:24 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
BubbaGump Shrimp
Jul-18-08 07:12:58 PDT Report this comment
alien*from*the*planet*zorb
My momma used to give me a box of chocolates and say nothing at all!
;)
Jul-18-08 07:13:21 PDT Report this comment
chief.joseph*s.trading.post
you never know what your going to get
Jul-18-08 07:13:36 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Inner, I hope you are right. It has sure changed the way I do things.
I no longer like to participate because of it.
Peg, I understand what you are saying too.
I just hope and pray that innocent people do not get hurt.
Jul-18-08 07:14:02 PDT Report this comment
rach-rooh
i havent seen any drama either this morning?
Jul-18-08 07:14:10 PDT Report this comment
alien*from*the*planet*zorb
fried shrimp, shrimp creole, shrimp marinara, chocolate covered shrimp...
Jul-18-08 07:14:23 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Chief, that is so true...just like a box of chocolates...from Forrest Gump!
Jul-18-08 07:14:35 PDT Report this comment
eeyore3066
my momma used to take my chocolate
Jul-18-08 07:14:40 PDT Report this comment
alien*from*the*planet*zorb
Iris, find the really nice people and talk to them. They're here. And if someone says something nasty, wish them a nice day and then don't say anything else. It's all we can do.
*hugs*
Jul-18-08 07:15:32 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Bye you all.
I said what I wanted to say and I am out of here.
At least it is ending of a funny note...I am laughing as I leave...I am going to the gym and do something useful! Work off some of this...whatever it is!
Jul-18-08 07:15:54 PDT Report this comment
chief.joseph*s.trading.post
my mamma was to tight to buy chocolate 8O(
Jul-18-08 07:16:34 PDT Report this comment
alien*from*the*planet*zorb
Bye Iris!!! Order some shrimp while you're out!!! LOL!!!
:)
Jul-18-08 07:16:35 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Thanks inner...cute pig, by the way! It is hard not to smile when you see a cute avatar!
Jul-18-08 07:16:48 PDT Report this comment
nailhd
WHAT ARE WE GONNA DO NOW IRIS?
Jul-18-08 07:16:55 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
Its the innocent people who get hurt by the bullies who like to accuse everyone else of being bullies


while pretending to be innocent and perfect in everything they do



even going so far as to break the law, and ebay does absolutely nothing about it
Jul-18-08 07:17:12 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I think I will just try to look for the good and over-look the rest. Maybe that will work.
I hope everyone has a great day...TGIF..and wishing you loads of sales this weekend too.
Jul-18-08 07:17:35 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
Oh yeah and I forgot to add


those who laugh with them and think what they do is "cute" or "funny"


are just as bad as them and are enablers
Jul-18-08 07:18:46 PDT Report this comment
palmtreetraveler
Hi iris, have fun at the gym!
Jul-18-08 07:19:12 PDT Report this comment
timetobreathe
regarding drama: the blogs have PMS. and i'm not kidding. just watch. after this weekend, it'll e nice for a couple of weeks, then we'll have a week of people trying to start things, and then we'll have a week of soap operas in here. anyway,

°`°º¤ø,¸¸,ø¤º°HAPPY FRIDAY°º¤ø,¸¸,ø¤º°`°
Jul-18-08 07:20:04 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
Someones gotta do it right?


In the real world they made laws, called Good Samaritan Law so those who stand by and watch are in just as much trouble as the original criminal


Its no different here either.
Jul-18-08 07:20:34 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
You are so right peg. I try to over-look it.
I have found that journaling is a good way to get things off your chest. I sometimes use Ebay to do that...I get responses some time and at other times, people just move on. That is OK too...at least I am not keeping it bottled up inside.
You all are great.
I appreciate all the comments.
By the way, a few years ago, I was back in school working on a degree. That was during the Forrest Gump thing. I loved that movie. I had already seen it several times and my psychology teacher took us to see it AGAIN. Everytime I saw it, I saw things I had not seen before. I learned a lot of nice life things from that movie.
Jul-18-08 07:21:09 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
See what I mean though? To some its just soap operas and they aren't seeing what these bullies are doing to people
Jul-18-08 07:21:40 PDT Report this comment
pegonthe-bay
I LOVE JENNY!
Jul-18-08 07:22:28 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Thanks for all the comments. I appreciate everyone helping me see this all from a different light. That is what is so great about the blogs!
I feel better and after the workout, I am sure I will be worn out, at the least!
The pool is calling my name too! May have to go out there and soak for a while too. This may be a Friday to relax! I need that after all this trauma drama~! LOL.
Jul-18-08 07:23:13 PDT Report this comment
frodobagginskennedy
I agree 100% Iris.....some people have nothing constructive to add so they try to make themselves look important by embarressing and hurting others.

One blogger in particular that I know of cost him/her a very nice sale from me by acting like this. They do not realize that a good number of people READ the blogs but NEVER post anything. Acting the part of the school yard bully loses the respect of many and in the long run will do nothing but hurt themselves.
Jul-18-08 07:23:24 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Me too, Peg. I loved Jenny, forrest, his mother...many things about the movie.
Jul-18-08 07:23:53 PDT Report this comment
thenaughtysecret2008
I get involved only if it affects me or if someone is just so out of line that it's just infuriating.
Jul-18-08 07:26:00 PDT Report this comment
pretty_blue_eyes0
lol nailhd hhehhehehe
Jul-18-08 07:29:43 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Same thing has happened to me too frodo. I will never buy from some of the ones who have made comments that I have been hurt by. And, there are many of them that I used to buy from.
Jul-18-08 07:47:29 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
This brought about a lot of discussion and I have found that most do not agree with the turmoil it causes. That is refreshing! You all are great.
Jul-18-08 07:49:02 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I am out of here for now.
I hope you all have a great day and weekend too.
You can run, you can hide, but God will always know what you did and who you are.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Bye for now.
Jul-18-08 07:50:54 PDT Report this comment
wingydingding
There are some people who are so bored they thrive on drama & one of the above who listed a comment on every blog about his sister. He has no sense. Instant gratification as the bullies and vultures run in to console a grown man. Someone shows a weakness, one starts & the vultures come in for the kill. If anyone speaks up the bullies come crashing in not to make a comment but to intimidate you from future comments. Another tactic is to copy and paste your comments. Basicly 6 Bullies cause all the trouble & they enjoy it. The vultures who get in on it seem to enjoy it too. The poor victim is hurt, stunned, crushed & they no longer blog which is fine with the bullies & the vultures. Iris I sincerely hope you continue to voice your opinion as you speak for the majority. Nobody seems to care who they hurt on here & they are rewarded with acceptance for being unkind.
Jul-18-08 07:57:44 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I post my comments because I have been a victim too. I have been blocked, which doesn't really bother me. If someone doesn't want my business, that is fine. I still have business.
I have been talked about, blamed for things I didn't do and so on. That is fine, but when I see others getting the same thing, I really feel bad and finally, I have to get it out.
Thanks wingy. I hope that the perpetrators will see that they are just hurting themselves and stop it.
Jul-18-08 08:04:38 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
For the biggest part, most people on Ebay are wonderful. They are here to make a dollar or two. They post their spam, comment occassionally and move on. Others? Not sure if their reason for being here is sincere or not.
Jul-18-08 08:06:03 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
Going to watch a movie with my 4 yr. old granddaughter. She likes attention and doesn't really like Granny on the computer. She is into what she wants...and for now, I guess I need to be too. LOL. Babies grow up so fast!
Jul-18-08 08:07:19 PDT Report this comment
wingydingding
Most likely they can not work for anyone because they can not get along with anyone in person so they come on here and find similar people & they enjoy doing what they can not get away with in the real world which is being rude and nasty cruel and mean for their own self gratification. Can you imagine 20 co- workers attacking someone and calling names. They would be so fired.
Jul-18-08 08:09:46 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I have seen that happen before wingy. I have seen many people written up and eventually fired over that kind of thing. You are right. Many cannot function in the real world, so they find other avenues.
Jul-18-08 08:14:00 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I am close to 50 comments! That is awesome. Thanks.
Jul-18-08 08:15:42 PDT Report this comment
wingydingding
Yes. So true. I hope you have a great day with your grand child & I hope you continue to blog because you are well respected and liked. It is painful to watch & most painful when no one speaks up. God Bless!
Jul-18-08 08:17:31 PDT Report this comment
irisgayle
I hope you all have a wonderful day. Later!
Jul-18-08 08:37:31 PDT Report this comment

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