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TJ's Silent Blog!!! Where is my grape jelly????
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Dragonfairy

Posted Aug-30-07 17:39:55 PDT

I am growing up!!! It is call being on the journey and facing the reality out there!!!  Let me learn and by the way, I am not sitting on my butt doing nothing!!!

I going to start my 2nd job very soon!!!!  Today, I went to get fingerprint and in about couple of weeks, I will be starting and I will be able to afford to get an apartment. 

Just let me goes on the journey and realize life is not fair!!  Right now, I am thinking of me because I am in it right now and learning.  I need to think about me.  Life for me starting later than most people.  My couselor told me and said it is not my fault.  I was in abusive marriage and my parents' pulled me down.  Going to counseling was the best things I have ever done.  She said what I am going thru is what most people goes thru in their early twenties.  She said it is normal for me because of what I been thru and being deaf!!! OH no, did I say the D word!!!  Yes, deaf people are delayed because they don't hear around.  They mature later then hearing. 

So just let me be on the journey!!!

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nailhd
happy trails Tj
Aug-30-07 17:43:40 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
thank nailhd!! When did you started your journey???
Aug-30-07 17:44:12 PDT Report this comment
sandrasacre
A lot of us are start later than most people. Just called Late Bloomers. Sometimes, that is a good thing!


Hang in there. Life will get better. sandrasacre
Aug-30-07 17:44:30 PDT Report this comment
nailhd
along time ago Tj and Im still on my journey!
Aug-30-07 17:45:40 PDT Report this comment
spicy*peach
You are not going to grow up until you get over yourself. You use your disability as a crutch and I find that sad. You have 2 good arms, 2 good legs, and you have sight. No one is trying to keep you from your "journey." You wonder at times why no one responds to your posts a lot of the time. Well, here it is....All you do is bitch and moan about one thing or another. Yes you do need to grow up, start taking personal responsibility, and quit blaming others for your misfortune.
Aug-30-07 17:46:41 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
really!! Hopefully, there will be different stages as realization stage, then getting thru, then settling. I am at realization stage but I have feeling within next month, I will start the getting thru stage when i get apt to live. I can't wait. Very scary!!!
Aug-30-07 17:47:08 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
Where is the blame of misfortune?! If you talking about my blame posting, it is a joke!!!
Aug-30-07 17:48:02 PDT Report this comment
spicy*peach
Until you can form an intelligent response. I have nothing else to say to you.
Aug-30-07 17:49:33 PDT Report this comment
a-better-place-for-payton
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Aug-30-07 17:49:45 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
I don't think she was talking about your "blame" posts t.j. We all recognized those for a joke.
Aug-30-07 17:51:12 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
ok but I don't know where the blame she talking about!!
Aug-30-07 17:51:46 PDT Report this comment
nailhd
you just keep on keepin on Tj
Aug-30-07 17:52:18 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
I will!! I don't know how to be anybody else!!! If you see something not good that means you find my weakness!! And I do know my weakness are!
Aug-30-07 17:53:13 PDT Report this comment
rustybarb
We're all on a journey in this life, and believe me, when I was raising my kids, I never in my wildest imagination think that this would be the hardest time of my life. We have absolutely no financial worries, kids grown, etc., but other challenges come at this stage. Ill and dying parents, kids sometimes not making good choices (that you NOW have NO control over!). Every stage has it's ups and downs and it will be that way till we die or till Jesus comes back, lol! We just have to make the best of it and know that "this to shall pass!"
Aug-30-07 17:53:28 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
In simple terms, you blame your parents for how they've treated you growing up...understandably your child hood was a challenge and you have many issues to resolve with them. You blame your hearing issues for your delay in maturing.....you blame the state for low salaries....
Aug-30-07 17:53:49 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
I guess she's asking what YOU as a person intend to do to take accountability and make changes for yourself. Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's how I'm interpreting it.
Aug-30-07 17:54:57 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
rustybarb - I try to keep thinking in head that all will be fine very soon and I will be ok but it getting starting that is so scary and when realization hit it like Wow!!! How am I going to do it and what do i need to do?? So I know and I feel it in my bones that Oct is my month and I am excited but soooooo scared!!!
Aug-30-07 17:55:30 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
*passes microphone to dragonsfairy....and in best Dr. Phil voice asks....* Dragon, would these issues reflect your thoughts?
Aug-30-07 17:56:19 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
CJ - it is proving fact in statistic!! I am ok with that! yes, I still struggle with parents. That why in counseling!! My couselor said thing will improve in feeling when I moved out and away from them. OH yes, it is the state, you should hear us teacher gripe but we continue to teach.

But she could have said it nicely!!
Aug-30-07 17:57:26 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
LOL!!! I didn't think of that!!! I was thinking I will have the deposit money to start!!! LOL!!!!
Aug-30-07 17:58:01 PDT Report this comment
spicy*peach
I tried saying it nicely this morning and you called that an attack. You should have all of your ducks in a row before calling someone out on the blogs. We ALL have our different sets of issues and problems. You think you have a monopoly on growing up in a not so ideal household. Well, you do not, but sooner or later you have to wake up and grow up. If you don't like the direction your life is taking, change direction.
Aug-30-07 18:01:53 PDT Report this comment
twinight1
i'm sorry TJ....but i also avoid your posts for the very reasons stated..if i sat down each day and wrote about all my woes...or even read everyone else's...i would have little time for anything else...good luck to you
Aug-30-07 18:05:33 PDT Report this comment
darleen1956
My journey started at age 12.

Lifestyles are all different.

Parents are different.

My thoughts were,however mean my dad was,I would match him,by being nicer.

I wanted to be the opposite of everything he was or stood for.

The more hateful he became,the more loving I became.

And maintain this even today.

There is one thing I know for sure.

We can let our childhood make us,or break us.

I chose to let it make me.

No life hasn't been easy at all,but I know for sure,I will never walk the path that my dad did.

You must make your journey when it feels right tj.

And you will know when it is time.

God Bless You.
Aug-30-07 18:07:33 PDT Report this comment
darleen1956
I am now going to spend my monthly 20 bucks at the casino,yes I do that.lol
Aug-30-07 18:08:58 PDT Report this comment
tjsttng
Thank darleen!! That sound like a poem right there!!
Aug-30-07 18:12:23 PDT Report this comment
rustybarb
I think training for a second job is taking responsibility and headed in the right direction. It's more ambitious than I would probably ever be. And being deaf is a challenge that the rest of us don't have to navigate through in looking for a job. It's like living in Miami and not speaking Spanish. You're options have been cut back to slim and none. Look at the classifieds in the Miami Herald and see if anybody is hiring anybody who is not bilingual. It ain't happenin!!

But tj, maybe you just aught to focus on something else, as we have seen the posts many times about the low teachers salaries, high cost of housing, etc., etc. None of this is news to anybody here, and how many times do you hear anybody around here talking about their high paying jobs anyway? Most everybody's in the same boat, and many in way worse a predicament than you are in. Whether it was said in the most diplomatic way or not, I think some were just saying, enough already, let's get onto something else.

I know that things are going to work out and you've definitely got a plan and you are moving along with it. I'm looking forward to hearing about those things.
Aug-30-07 18:13:26 PDT Report this comment
observations-of-life
How I remember zachsmomma rampaging through the blogs almost on a daily basis until; noy too long of a time ago where she swore to be a gentle soul but not to step on her toes.

How dare any of you tear down Terrianne for using this venue to vent and discuss matters in her own way.I see some comments here that some bloggers don't come to her posts,well,you did this time to bitch.

Stop to consider that this is the only outlet into this hearing world that she has to use as a sounding board and a means of expression.And because she doesn't meet your expectations you choose to tar and feather her.

Now tell me again who needs to grow up?
Aug-30-07 18:32:16 PDT Report this comment
observations-of-life
I do have one more thought.Who among you has completed their journey through life and can no longer learn and experience ,yea,even change?
Aug-30-07 18:35:16 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
I think a point can easily be made without name calling. I believe name calling ended when I became an adult. A simple difference of opinions doesn't need to escalate into full fledged battles though the behaviours of some often flame differences into such. I hope you all find peace with this.
Aug-30-07 19:09:35 PDT Report this comment
spicy*peach
I never promised to be a kind a gentle soul. I am an honest soul, much like you muledaddy, honest to a fault. How can you succeed in life if you blame every outside force as the cause of your misery? There comes a point and time when you have to take responsibility for your own happiness.
Aug-30-07 19:12:43 PDT Report this comment
observations-of-life
That;'s a bunch of crap and you know dragon.You swore to not be that rsamapgfing dragon unless someone stepped on you and I want to knopw which pinkie TJ stepped on to hurt you in any way.Our news is full of the very same things TJ is talking about and in fact I am going to paste the news all over the blogs so you can catch up what the teachers across the nation are saying on public forums.Then go tell them to act differently and grow up.

I suggest that yopu get to now TJ before you step out and run her down which I have done almost on a daily basis which is more that any of you can say.Walk a mile in their shoes and you get bunions
Aug-30-07 19:26:56 PDT Report this comment
bizzy*beez
I see tj's blog as a place for her to vent, to write down her thoughts and her goals. Who here among us hasn't complained about this or that. She may not be disabled in such a way that she needs a wheelchair or such to get around. But, she is disabled. I couldn't imagine not being able to hear. I had a boyfriend who was totally deaf in one ear, and believe me, it was frustrating for him at times, and that was only in one ear.

TJ feels comfortable coming here and putting her thoughts here. After all, that is what a blog mainly is, it's like an online journal.

No one has to read it, or support all her comments. If you find she's complaining, move on to another post. She's not the first one to complain, and she definitely will not be the last.


Also, keep in mind that some people can collect their thoughts better when they see everything written down. She is under so much stress right now, and she needs a way to organize everything that's going on in her life. Writing it all down is one way to keep track.
Aug-30-07 19:27:11 PDT Report this comment
bizzy*beez
Here muledaddy, you can use this link for what the teachers in WV are posting.

http://teachers.net/states/wv/
Aug-30-07 19:28:51 PDT Report this comment
spicy*peach
No I didn't mule. Find it if you can dear. I'm not going to get in a pissing contest with you over this issue. I don't have issue with teachers getting more money either.
Aug-30-07 19:31:52 PDT Report this comment
crazyjeans12000
Good grief. Here's another prime example of a simple difference of opinions being escalated all out of proportion by the interference, no matter how well meaning, of others.
Aug-30-07 19:34:20 PDT Report this comment
goldenshovels
Okay i wasnt gonna say anything but you know me.. I personally dont see what you guys are fighting about??? everyone has a right to put what they want on their blog??? I know dragon
you and I think alike alot but its really not our place to tell her how to be she will ahv eto see things for herself and thats what shes trying to do... Then Im sure we will hear about it when she does, but i know and you know dragon that sometimes we have to see the big picture... Bj
Aug-30-07 19:54:25 PDT Report this comment
observations-of-life
Remember I even told you that your new look is great on you.How quickly you forget.Now leave TJ to discover her way in nthis world free of any outside unnecessary bull crap from a peanut gallery.You guys are so way off base on what you think you know that is it disgusting.
Aug-30-07 20:44:50 PDT Report this comment

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